It’s been a year and a half since my last burnout. I remember the tightness in my chest, the shortness of breath, and lots of tears from feeling so overwhelmed by work. After leaving that job for a workplace that I thought would lead to better opportunities, what I had expected to be a hopeful beginning soon crumbled to pieces.

Three years ago, my brother committed suicide. Facing that was a real struggle. I believe the grief ministry is an underrated one. Most of us are uncomfortable with loss and mourning, even as we’re called to mourn with those who mourn (Romans 12:15). People who are grieving also face a lot of questions and doubts, and the church plays an important role in helping people keep their faith.

We are called to stand up for Jesus’s name, and we most certainly should. But if we choose to do so without knowing who or what we’re challenging, we’ve lost the battle before it even begins. So how do we as Christians deal when faced with un-Christian media? Here are four do’s to get us started.